It’s better to receive than to give. Did you hear me wrong? Did I say that backwards? No I didn’t.
For most people, receiving is harder than giving because receiving is better than giving, and we as humans have trouble doing the better things in life. I am no exception to this rule, but let me explain:
I don’t mean to say that I can’t grow in how generously I give my money, resources, time and self. Certainly I can grow in this. Sometimes, giving is even hard. In the past, giving financially was really hard for me, but God has made me grow in my trust of Him as provider and lover. And now, I enjoy the exhilarating feeling it is to give generously.
Nevertheless, receiving is harder for me than giving. It is truly humbling. Here is why:
In order to ask anybody for anything and receive it, I must acknowledge first that I’m deficient in some way and need help. Receiving help is one thing, but asking for help is quite another level of humility. When I ask somebody for help, I’m unashamed to admit that I’m weak and need another person’s strength to support me.
Furthermore, when I ask somebody for help, whether that be financially or physically, I’m confessing that I’m weak whereas if somebody else offers help to me and I receive it, I don’t need to confess my weakness nearly as much as when I initiative the request for help.
When you give to somebody else, you put yourself on the strong part of the relationship. When you give to somebody else, even if it’s in a huge sacrificial way, you don’t need to admit that you are weak and needy. But rather, giving is your expression of strength and stability.
That is why it is harder to receive than it is to give because when you give, you don’t need to admit any kind of deficiency that you have. Hence, it is not humbling for you. But when you receive from somebody else, it is deeply humbling because you are admitting your weakness.
Of course there are exceptions to this. No doubt, some people know how to receive way too easily because they are greedy. Truly, our heart is deceitful. Nevertheless, most people find it hard to receive and find it easier to give.
This is why Heather and I did find it hard to ask for financial support with her lyme disease treatment. It was humbling because we recognized our deficiency.
If you aren’t so convinced that receiving is better than giving, then let me explain this from Scripture. Here are a few reasons that receiving is better than giving:
(1) Others benefit from giving to you. So receive it! In Acts 20:35, Paul mentions how Jesus was known for saying, “it is more blessed to give and to receive.”
You might say, “see, you are wrong Aaron! It’s not better to receive than to give. In Jesus own words, He said ‘it’s more blessed to give than to receive!'”
I understand that, and for that reason, I love giving to others and I always feel blessed because God blesses me when I give.
However, in order for this verse to work, if others will be blessed in giving, then it must mean that the recipients of their giving must be willing to receive it.
You see, if nobody will receive from me what I want to give them, then they’ve refused me a blessing, which is unkind. From experience, I always feel most blessed when I give to others. Therefore, when others receive from my giving, they are actually allowing me to be blessed. Their reception of my giving blessed me. This means that when they receive my gift, they bless me. For that reason, receiving is much better than giving.
Applying the same logic to others then, if I am going to bless others and not myself, then I must be willing to receive from them.
According to Jesus words, when you give, it’s divinely selfish in a good way because it blesses yourself. In the words of 2 Corinthians 8:10, “this benefits you.” But when you receive from somebody else what they want to give to you, you are allowing them to be blessed!
Therefore, in order for us to be truly selfless, we must become good receivers because in doing so, we bless others as they give to us.
For that reason, I kid you not, my wife and I decided to open up a gofundme account in order to ask for support during her battle with lyme disease. In doing so, we recognized that we would be giving our friends the opportunity to be blessed because truly, “it is more blessed to give than to receive.” You see, by opening up the opportunity for us to receive, we were actually giving others the opportunity to be blessed. So really, when you receive, you are giving. You give somebody the opportunity to be blessed by giving to you.
Therefore, we hope that we’ve blessed many people by allowing them to receive the blessing of giving to us. We believe this with all of our heart because we believe in Jesus words.
(2) Another reason that receiving is better than giving is because behind all giving there is reception.
Therefore, giving must submit to receiving.
To put it simply, all that you can give came from receiving what somebody else gave to you…a paycheck, inheritance, Christmas check, etc…
In 2 Corinthians 8-9, the Apostle Paul encourages the Church of Corinth to finish giving what they promised to give to other Church saints. In trying to persuade them to give, he uses reception language.
In 2 Corinthians 8, Paul tries to motivate the rich Christians of Corinth to give by explaining how God’s grace had fueled some poor Christians in Macedonia to give generously. He writes, “we want you to know, brothers about the grace of God that has been given among the Churches of Macedonia, for in a severe test of affliction, their abundance of joy and their extreme poverty have overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part.”
Notice the word grace. A synonym for grace is gift. And notice that this was not just some ordinary grace, this was ‘the grace of God.’ Now listen to the way that Paul opens up his commendation of the Macedonian Christians generous giving: “we want you to know, brothers about the grace of God that has been given among the Churches…” You see, Paul wants the Church of Corinth to know about God’s grace that has been given to the Churches. And it was out of these poor Churches of Macedonia reception of God’s gift that they were able to give so generously.
What did these poor Christians have to give? Like anybody, they could only give that which they had received. So what had they received? They received the grace of God. Without being willing to receive the grace of God, they would not have been able to give so generously.
So it is with us. The reason that receiving comes before giving is because God is our source of wealth and riches and all that we have comes from Him. All that we give comes from receiving His gift of life. Even the money that we earn through arduous labor comes from the body that God so graciously gave us with energy in it to work for income.
In all giving, receiving comes first.
But these Macedonian Christians are interesting because they were extremely poor. So what did they have to give? How could they give?
Paul gives us the answer in chapter 8 verse 9: “For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sake He became poor, so that you by His poverty might become rich.”
That describes the Gospel.
So do you see it? In order for us to give as God wants us to give, we must receive Jesus Christ as our riches and what He gave to us, not what we can give to Him, but what He gave to us!
Giving then, flows out of receiving the gospel, the gospel being that Jesus Christ had to die for our sins. In fact, He became sin (2 Cor. 5:21) for us. That means that He became the debt of death that the wages of our sin earned. And He paid it off by becoming spiritually eternally poor on the cross.
What Jesus sought to do on the cross was make a spiritual bank transfer to us so that through His poverty we might become rich. It was His richly perfect life that He sought to give us in order to pay our eternal debt of death caused by our sin.
As Romans 6:23 says, “the wages of sin is death.”
Therefore, Jesus had to die for us.
In 2 Corinthians 9:13 Paul continues to explain how giving comes from our reception of the Gospel, “by their approval of this service (giving), they will glorify God because of your submission flowing from your confession of the Gospel of Christ, and the generosity of your contribution for them and for all others…”
Paul is explaining the process of giving as submission, and the kind that flows out of confessing the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
This is saying that when we give, we are confessing the Gospel. But when we confess the Gospel, we are confessing our spiritual poverty that has nothing to give to God for our sin. In fact, it’s more than that. When we confess the Gospel, we admit that it’s good news that Jesus Christ took away our bad news. And the bad news was that we had an eternal debt of death that we had earned for our sin. Therefore, when we confess the Gospel we confess that not only do we have nothing, but we have less than nothing. We owe God death debt. So in order to confess the gospel, we admit that Jesus took our death debt by dieing for our sins on the cross which we could only RECEIVE because we had nothing to give Him because we were in desperate debt.
Therefore, the essence of the Gospel on our part is receiving, and God’s part is giving.
Therefore, when you give, you submit to your confession of the gospel which is the process whereby you receive Jesus Christ’s richness. Therefore, giving always submits to receiving. In order to truly give, your giving must always humbly bow in your submission to receiving. Yes, to give is to receive. Giving can only follow receiving.
That is why the impoverished Macedonian Christians could give “above their means” (2 Cor. 8:3). They gave above their financial means because they had received the free “grace of God that was given (to them)” (2 Cor. 8:1). The grace of Jesus that they received was Jesus Christ’s riches of righteousness in replacement for their poverty of sin. Because they had received the riches of righteousness found in God’s eternal gospel, they could give freely. They demonstrated Psalm 112:9 which Paul quotes later in 2 Corinthians 9:9, “He has distributed freely, he has given to the poor, his righteousness endured forever.”
When our righteousness endures forever because we’ve received the rich righteousness of Jesus Christ as a free gift, then we can give freely to others because we’ve already confessed in the gospel of rich righteousness that acknowledges that we have nothing, but God has everything! Therefore, our God who has everything in Christ will certainly give to us so that we can give to others. But it all begins with reception.
We must receive Christ, and by receiving Christ instead of trying to give to Him, we learn the ways of giving:
God gives and we receive. This is what Romans 4:4 says, “4 Now to the one who works, his wages are not counted as a gift but as his due. 5 And to the one who does not work but believes in him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is counted as righteousness”
Do you see it? We must learn the art of receiving if we will be righteous as God wants. And reception in Romans 4:4-5 is illustrating our faith in God through Christ.
So our part is faith/reception and God’s part is to give.
This is what Jesus says in Mark 10:45, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
Jesus wants to serve us, we can’t serve Him. That’s what Jesus says. At least, we can’t serve Him in the sense that we give Him anything that He lacks. Because Jesus is God, and He is perfect, He doesn’t lack anything. Hence He doesn’t need served!
But He came to serve us. He came to give to us. And our part is to receive from Him His death that sought to clear our guilty debt and give us the riches of His grace so that we have something to give others in return.
Because what Jesus gives us is eternal, it means that we never run out of the ability to give out of our eternal bank of Jesus.
But you must receive Him first, which leads me to the final reason that it’s better to receive than to give:
(3) The way into the Kingdom of God is asking & receiving.
When you receive from other people, and especially when you ask them for help, you are practicing the way of the gospel that leads you to heaven.
Jesus says, “ask and it will be given to you; see, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.”
He also says that whoever would like to enter the Kingdom of Heaven must demonstrate child like faith. In Matthew 18:2-4, Jesus says as He calls a child next to Him, “truly I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven.”
Becoming like a child is what it takes to enter Heaven, which is apparently a humbling process. Why? Because children can only receive receive and receive some more! And as I mentioned before, this is humbling.
I have 2 little sons in my life right now. They are needy little guys. They can only receive from us. Yet, when my oldest one refuses to eat what my wife and I offer him, we aren’t happy because we want him to receive everything that we give him because we know that he needs it, although sometimes he thinks that he doesn’t!
This illustrates the way to Heaven. God has provides us with His Son Jesus as our Bread of Life. If we refuse Him, then we won’t be nourished and we won’t make it to heaven because we won’t live to get there.
We need to be like children who humbly receive.
Furthermore, we need to receive Jesus as the One Who makes us rich. Kids only have the riches that are in their parents bank account. Not only that, but they need their parents to spend the riches because the kids wouldn’t know how to use it even if they had it.
That represents us. We need the Lord’s provision. We’re too young to work for anything good. We must receive. Plus anything that we have to give is because our Heavenly Father gave us an allowance!
His allowance comes from Christ Jesus and is Jesus Himself.
God the Father provided us with Jesus Christ, sent from Heaven, born of a virgin, Who lived a sinless life, was crucified for our sins, paid our debt of death by dying, and rose from the grave in order to raise us with Him. And we will follow in His pathway to a glorious resurrection that blasts through death into life everlasting.
All we need to do is receive Him.
You know, the only people who will be in Hell are those who wouldn’t receive Jesus Christ. There will only be givers in Hell. That is, there will be those who tried to give their life for God as if they had something to offer Him, while He, all along, was reaching out His hand through His Son Jesus to give them His gracious free gift and “get out of jail free” card. But they wouldn’t take it because in reaching out their hand to give, they clenched their fist shut as they held onto whatever they had to offer, and in doing so, they closed their fist to God and rejected opening up their hands to His gift of Jesus.
Yes, to be givers, we must first be receivers because receiving is the way to God and the way to Heaven.
I think that Psalm 23 illustrates this:
“The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want,” and the reason that we shall not want is because God has given us everything that we need through our Great Shepherd Jesus Christ Who we have received and we will follow into Heaven.
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*P.S. For those of you who might be reading this and have given to Heather and I in any shape and form, I don’t intend this post to be a rude response to your giving as if to say that we’ve done something better than you have by receiving what you’ve given. I certainly do not intend to say that. In fact, I intend to say the opposite.
We’ve been humbled by our neediness and your generosity. And we think that your giving flows out of your reception of the gospel. Like I said, in all giving there is receiving. Giving submits to receiving. Therefore, we are gladdened by the prospect that your giving has come from your submission of your confession of the Gospel. We assume that you’ve learned the art of receiving God’s grace for your life which has overflowed in generous giving to us. And we are recipients of the way that God has given through you. As God has given to you, which you have clearly received, your reception is blessing us!
Ultimately though, it’s only the Lord who gives and gives and gives without the need to receive, and He has given to us through you which started when you received from Him what you in turn gave to us! Thanks for being good receivers! We are blessed in return and abundantly thankful!